It's easy to brag about the 100 men after you that you don't want. But can you land the one you really want? The answer for the majority of modern women is no. The man you want is going to require that you are better, and most modern women would secretly prefer to drown in their mediocre results getting empty compliments from the dusties. A lot of modern women have poor results because their comfort zone of "friends" don't require them to step it up.
Flip it & reverse it - the same energy applies to the masculine. Time, energy & intension. Why waste time, have energy entanglements to what you don’t want when you can raise the standards & align with what the soul calls for.