Changing perspective is changing the status quo.
Cease lowering the bar in relationships, regardless of the sexual or romantic alignment.
It's not a cause for celebration when someone goes to therapy to work through generational, ancestral, or current life events.
Its, not a cause for celebration when someone puts in a noticeable amount of effort into a relationship
Its not a cause for celebration when someone cleans the bathroom, does a load of washing, cooks a meal or takes out the trash.
It's not cause for celebration when someone validates your emotions
Its not cause for a celebration when someone wants to give you sensuous pleasure without an agenda or need for ejaculation or orgasm.
Its not cause for a celebration for someone planning a date night
Its not cause for celebration when someone texts you back immediately
Its not a cause of celebration when someone finds you fascinating or validates you in any area of your life
Its not cause for celebration when someone knows how to act on reflective listening.
Its not a cause of celebration to witness you without judgment, expectation or conditioning.
Its, not a cause for celebration when someone has emotional depth, emotional maturity or leads with reciprocation in communication
Its not a cause for celebration when someone has self-honoring boundaries & honors them.
Its not cause for celebration when someone has spatial, cultural awareness.
It's not cause for celebration if they don't take advantage of you just because they can.
Its not a cause for celebration when someone doesn't become passive-aggressive when you reject them or have a difference of opinion to them.
Its not a cause for celebration when someone adults in life, take financial responsibility for themselves, does chores around the house, helps with raising a family or takes care of animals, property or washing the car.
Its not a cause for celebration to celebrate an individual for being able to say what they mean & mean what they say
It's not a cause for a celebration when someone is in their healthy masculine energy or healthy feminine energy.
Humanity has been enslaved under an old dogmatic patriarchal toxic encumbering system where we CELEBRATE the basics in connection to one another.
Regardless if intimacy is involved or not...
Absolutely have self-honoring standards, raise the bar on what is acceptable, & flex your emotional dexterity to choose wisely for yourself.
JUST BE CLEAR to yourself that you aren't seeking someone, a lover & celebrating actions that actually aren't extraordinary - they are in fact the basics of a connection.
Stop lowering the BAR thinking the basics are MAGIC, when in fact they are the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Raising consciousness in all awareness is also about reframing what has in the old context been deemed extraordinary to relate to one another.