Would you refer to yourself as "strong" traversing difficulties in your life right now convincing yourself you are resilient AF when actually you are suppressing your true feelings about a situation or multiple situations you are navigating?
Truth be told when something challenging happens in our lives we buy into the assumption the very innate story that spirit or god is testing us as some right of passage or initiation to pass a test on the depth of strength.
All too often individuals don't give themselves in challenging times irrespective of the context the sacred space to be vulnerable, feel the emotions as they rise, ask for help or support let alone allow grief to pass in the death & rebirth cycle of conscious evolution.
We live in a modern society where resilience & projecting of how to be on the surface is "fine" when in fact under the surface emotions are deeply trapped & not being expressed which accumulates into stored trauma in the pain body. Humans tend to reward with badges of honor as a surface response how resilient someone is by how strong they are.
Being strong is so over used that the true depth of strength doesn't come from masking emotions or complexities that brought about adverse emotional responses rather the vulnerability in expressing how we truly feel is where transparency lay.
Because of this projection on how to show up in a modern world, individuals then put on false masks pretending to be something they are not for fear of judgement or inability to "manage" themselves whilst all the while feeling fragile, unsupported & not truly seen or understood.
Being strong is a highly over rated display of character that has been to vaguely used in the conscious community that leaves people with a expectation hangover with how they perceive they should be rather than just being authentic selves.
When we push aside a valuable emotional gateway of learning ourselves more intimately we delay or prolong the lesson needed to be traversed & embodied.
As a blunt reality harshness of what society says one should conform to has created a sub culture of individuals confusing mental toughness as a super power over vulnerability.
A clear definition of resilience is an ability to have conscious awareness to overcome challenges quickly. Reality however is healing in true depth at its innate core with any form of recovery & embodiment requires a individual to own & heal in wholeness otherwise only bandaids will be applied to the wounds that ooze until the wound is activated once more through a different person, time or lesson.
Asking yourself a key question when navigating emotions is to be curious with whats rising & asking yourself "what am I learning here & why?" rather than defaulting to putting on a false persona of strength to push away adversity or try & have emotional bypassing occur.
Because in truth what you resist will always persist until you heal the core wound. I invite you to welcome a new lens on how you choose to show up emotionally in your life. Your emotions are powerful & equally liberating you from lower states of being that keep you captive to precisely who you are not.
Whilst you may have a narrative you tell yourself that being strong is your super power, feel into the self love language of being resilient without repression of emotional wellbeing. Although it may feel like you are protecting yourself from being hurt again - being strong actually constructs walls around your heart to keep people out. Rather than changing your beliefs to match & mirror the removal of the bricks you have stacked up around you as a facade of protection keeping you hostage in not feeling rather over thinking in a narrative of its not safe for you to feel or be felt by another or others.
Never underestimate the depth of sacred POWER with TRUE strength in being VULNERABLE.
Understand your emotions to unlock your self love sovereignty
You are a gift to the world every single aspect of you especially your vulnerability!
Eternally,