This won't be for everyone, but it is precisely what is needed for the right souls having a hard time having no contact with blood family, narcissistic parents, siblings, or extended family.
It would have helped you if you did not have to ask for safety as a child, including emotional, physical, or environmental protection. Yet, as an adult, you can recognize where safety was not provided, and from a very early age, your fight, flight, and flee reflex was activated.
As you navigate the world, your immediate influences should be safe. You shouldn't need to cut folks out of your life, but if it means sanity, safety, health & well-being with calmness and sanity, then always choose yourself.
No ifs or buts; choose yourself.
Despite the many narratives that may influence your understanding of family, it's important to remember that you can define your own. Not the media, not political institutions, not governments, but you.
If your family or those close to you are making you sick, if you struggle to connect to the feminine or the masculine for that matter - know that the roots of repair are always possible.
I am living proof of that, yet you can go no contact with folks regardless of who they are & live fully.
Unapologetically passionately, loving forward despite not being shown this from a tender age.
Love graciously & heal the flight, flight & flee in you.
By gifting safety to yourself, your inner child, and your adult in the here & now.
You are not a bad daughter or son for choosing harmony, calmness, and safety by removing yourself from the repetition of chaos and suffering; you have always deserved to feel unwaveringly SAFE in your home with loved ones.
Even if you are made out to be the bad guy for making no contact, listen to your heart and walk forward confidently with your soul. When you live a drama-free existence, you can thank yourself for that.
Because you choose calm for chaos,
You dont need to sacrifice yourself because society says, "Oh, but it's your mum, your dad."
No one deserves to feel unsafe, especially from core influences in your life.
You change narratives and cultivate fresh perspectives, loving your inner child as much as your adult self by creating and cultivating your own safety.
You can develop gratitude for being born into this world and still have no contact. You can grow from your lived experiences and love from afar and still have no contact.
Folks assume it's hard if they have never had contact; I say it's liberating. You dont miss dysfunction, nor do you stay awake at night hoping for things to be different.
You know that these experiences made you the being you are; they never hardened your heart—if anything, they made it more significant to love bolder, knowing you ALWAYS get to choose who you love, live with, and build a life with.
Your inner child may have been unable to advocate for itself - your grown-ass adult version of you can & will.
Time & time again.
Every human should feel safe; some of us learn it by gifting it to ourselves first so we can show others how we value it, share in it & advocate for it.
Society's normal doesn't have to be your normal; create your own normal & live according to what makes you feel safe, always.
Your future self thanks you!
Remember your peace, safety & happiness is priceless - always honor that no matter what society says.
I love you,