One of the most common desires I see in a healing journey is the rush to get it over with. He lies the opportunity; healing is NEVER about rushing through; it's about leaning into LOVE in all ways LOVE has been absent from the womb of creation through the adult in this now moment with all the reverberations in between.
Then you weave in ancestral, generational, & soul wisdom...
Trauma leaves you vulnerable to manipulation.
Humanity can easily be seduced by deficits, meaning an individual had an emotional exchange that left a wound with fear, weakness, or loathing exchange in the self.
Finding a healthful love with strength is actually the opposite. Being seduced by weakness.
You could have your strings pulled, play the delicate little sapling that needs protection, or the helpless child in need of nurturing.
Let's be clear, it's going to work - but why you may ask would it work?
Cause it makes you feel strong.
Because in the other person's eyes, in that split second, you SEE a version of yourself that you want to BE.
You want to be as strong as they may perceive you to be.
It can feel like love, but truly it's a reenactment.
Of an old unprocessed wound, hurt, or disconnect to an aspect of yourself you have not yet touched.
Touched emotionally, mentally, physically, & spiritually.
You see, these reenactments often end in commanding the very wound being playout in the relationship, connection, or situationship over & over again. Sometimes creating new trauma.
So how do you prevent that from happening?
Repeating patterns...
Good question, so glad you asked.
In this case - it would actually be to move toward the weakness instead of projecting it.
As crazy as it might sound, you actually dont need to keep living, reenacting out trauma to grow in life, in love & with self.
