It's futile to seek closure from those who have caused you pain, regardless of your connection to them. The absence of accountability is your closure. Silence and their treatment of you bring closure. Recognize that you can move forward and heal from suffering without needing any apologies, intentional or not.
I get it. Seeking answers for closure is an essential human trait when attempting to logically make sense of lived experiences. Being human is complex, not in an arduous way, but in that clear witnessing of our multidimensional self through the lens of compassion, acceptance, and curious self-inquiry into understanding the choices made, the connections held, and the growth that arises from lived life experiences. Remember, it's okay to be kind to yourself in this process.
You outgrow people, some more quickly than others. Every connection has a purpose, regardless of how it comes to pass. Equally, how you close out its learning holds weight in the grace you gift yourself in closure.
Realize that closure is not an external exchange but an internal leveling up. In this perspective, you'll stop holding yourself hostage to a moment when a part of your ego seeks resolution. You have the power to empower yourself and find your own closure.
Actual resolution comes from understanding that the apology you seek is not the key. The lessons you've learned were not in vain. They were there to teach you to prioritize yourself, to love yourself, and to stop placing your emotional well-being in the hands of those who do not hold themselves to the same standards of compassion, grace, humility, and accountability. This is your path to growth and self-love, a journey that is all about you and your worth.
Your soul never asks you to choose sides; your ego does.
Your soul knows its worth; it is up to you to recognize its divinity in action.
So remember, if life didn't line up in the way you anticipated, or the timing of how relationships came to pass, regardless of the type of relationship...
Hold grace for the redirection; it holds unwavering soulful purpose.
You can never force what is not meant to be; what is meant to be is for you to recognize the power you hold in gifting yourself all the resolutions, solutions & closure to the lived learned experiences you had to date.
As one chapter of your life closes out, you are rewriting and creating the next by transparently witnessing the past and holding the vastness of the now unfolding. This means embracing the present moment and all its possibilities. You are aligning with the future version of you, who is already living a life of design. You are the master of closing out cycles in life, taking no hostages emotionally, mentally, or spiritually, especially by not allowing yourself to be one in someone else's story.
Closure ultimately does not teach others a lesson; it's because you've learned yours.
Feel the magnitude of that.
Loving you forward