NURTURING DIVINE COUNTERPARTS CONNECTIONS IN CONSCIOUS CONNECTIVITY

Many interpretations circle about divine counterparts, sacred unions & twin soul connections, & soulmates through years of facilitating, mentoring & coaching couples - singles alike I want to share common threads that very much show up in connections that are prevalent to all levels of love shared between two consenting adults choosing to navigate life together.

Lets start with the first energy exchange, when a individual is devoted to the other person rather then devoted to growing the union by both pouring into it, they often get lost in translation in the connection, begrudging the other person due to creating a codependency relationship. You see when two people come together in romantic connectivity the objective is not to loose yourself & be bound to your beloveds every whim - you are encouraged to keep coming home deeper to yourself so you can continue to heal, grow & expand within healthful connectivity to each other, with each other in conscious awareness.

Being able to be committed to your own individual growth as much as the growth of the union. When that doesn't occur, toxic patterns kick in & often relationships get stale by running their course.

Unions regardless of the title are to show you how to love more, not less. They are designed to show you where you can love on yourself more than outsourcing it to task rabbit/ aka your partner to fill up your cup of love & life. The objective of connections is to keep nurturing your own inner self cup of love & share that with a beloved, sacred other, divine counterpart, soulmate. Vice versa, this is how two individuals can stay individual in owning their authenticity & still love pouring into their combined union without the need to sacrifice self or the other in order to grow in the connection.

Setting yourself alight to keep your partner warm is not the epitome of healthy connectivity if you are left freezing cold & self abandoned. Meaning, that conscious connections are you teach you, grow with you until such time the universe, God, your soul self / god self has grown forward. Some of these unions are long lasting, become lifetime partnerships & others are for a season or a defining reason.

Regardless of how they come to pass they are in the premise to know how to receive love as you give love, to give love as you receive love in balanced, unbridled conscious connectivity.

Balanced doesn't equate to perfect; balanced is truly learning your beloved love languages as deeply as you know your own. Thats true presence, its' a love language in unto itself. Loving someone in light & shade, celebrating them in public as much as in closed proximity to sacred intimacy.

What I have come to learn is that individuals get stuck when they cross paths with the person they are meant to have a love adventure with. Due to vastly being the root of the connection is challenging the beliefs systems currently held around intimacy, emotional intimacy, healthy relating, spirituality, society, community, boundaries, values alignment & having to give up something in order to be loved or love (which stems often from parental wounds unresolved in some fashion).

The belief system on the worthiness pieces comes up a lot when these kinds of connections come in, how you believe you are worthy for a love like this.

Particularly if you have spent time working on yourself, healing trauma or emotional blockages & do not have a baseline to use as a guide on how to move through this type of connection.

I see this happen a lot in my mentorship, it can be overwhelming for many to be open to this new level of connection if you have no baseline of what healthy looks like if all you have had is chaotic, toxic & emotionally unavailable partnerships.

Every next version of you will invite you to love at that level of depth, intimacy across all levels of your current consciousness.

You might be saying to yourself at this point, you understand this - but this next point is where all too often individuals get stuck.

The reason the feminine & masculine energies meet in potential unions because they are mirroring their persons strengths & blind spots - so when it comes to worthiness often the feminine will realize she has settled for far too much in previous connections, even bare basics she once celebrated which in reality are basic core human functionality.

This can also look like miss behaviors, tolerance for toxic behaviors, lack of accountability that often translates to the feminine actually being in a one-sided relationship where she plays out the mother wound to the partner. Which in actual fact takes her out of her femininity & puts her into her masculinity - leaving the masculine counterpart more dominant in the feminine energy.

Whilst this is not the entire picture, it certainly aids in awareness to understand starting points to create lasting changed way of honoring & holding yourself in unions outside of self by way of working on your inner divine union.

Whats actually happening under the layers of this is teaching the feminine boundaries, self respect, self value, self worth, self accountability, standards, confidence & inner security. It's teaching power, direction & velour. Aligned action, because again masculine energy is very material-based - action-orientated.

It's also important to note that it's also action in removing unwanted energies away that are not in resonance or self respect.

When connections get activated, it's because they are highlighting the wounding & or unmet needs that your inner child, teen, young adult - soul self is guiding you to resolve from within. This is why relationships are mirrors.

To break down barriers of where you feel undeserving of love, you are shown you do not need to settle in order to be partnered. That the self-sacrifice badge society said was noteworthy, you finally recognize it was a hoax & fallacy that kept you enslaved to being everywhere other than true to yourself.

This is often where the feminine energy get distracted, because they blame the masculine for the wounding they bring - when in fact they are simply showing you where love is absent & you have the power to change that from within. When the masculine is showing up for the feminine in this way they are simply showing what is willing to be exchanged for self-abandonment, self-sabotage, self betrayal so the patterns can truly be given the light of day to heal.

On the flip side in the masculine energy space is rooted in worthiness it shows up differently, the wounding they often carry is a metric governed by external material value in the world. Hunter, gather energy. The masculine energy is about providing leadership, money, career, status, physical strength - the metric they have been historically fed into believing is what governs the value they bring to the feminine.

So the distraction for the masculine that often shows up is they do not feel worthy enough of the feminine because they always feel unresourced by they do not have all the "things" to come to bring & offer her.

Whilst yes financial stability, protection & leadership/consistency is important in any union- its not the only aspect the feminine desire. What the masculine gets challenged with is are they still worthy of the connection & love if they cannot bring "X" to the connection.

So the masculine will overtly distract themselves with work, money & career which keeps them looping in the mental body. Missing gateways of connectivity to the emotional body where the feminine is asking them to lean into.

You see the masculine has been fed its a fallacy in that in order to be a good man without these "things" they are unworthy & undeserving of partnership & love.

So now you can begin to see the basic layering of the self-fulfilling prophecy here, the feminine is actually inviting to be within the depths of your heart - open to explore the depths of intimacy beyond the sheets, emotionally, mentally, physically & spiritually.

Which is also the balance for the feminine, to be in her heart space - its about harmonizing these energies. The feminine tend to over-give at all cost, the masculine struggle to be emotionally vulnerable & open. The feminine often accepts out of desperation to be in partnership than alignment. So as you can see one side is to porous & the other side is closed.

So the reminder is the coming together in union is not seeking the perfect mate, partner or lover. But to curiously understand where you can learn more about yourself through partnership in the power of love.

It is also vital to know that coming together in union aids in removing blocks to prosperity, vitality, community, creativity & collaboration as much as divine harmonics of spiritual growth. Thus as these blocks dissolve, what is actually occurring is the rise in self-awareness, the depth of worth to be in union, be in divine receivership of these newly aligned possibilities into grounded reality.

Let's be clear the abundance that flows yes can be manifested in material ways, but at its core is the manifestation of the purity of love in which is ready to be divinely held, nurtured & grown in all ways.

Through the power of relationship, the inner growth & outer magnetism shifts that occur places out an electromagnetic field of alignment to attract in the worthiness of the things, connections, love & growth that is aligned in anyone now moment.

That brings more joy, laughter, euphoric bliss, creativity, tenderness & presence, with flowing magic for more of the same to keep flowing forward just as you are.

Authentically in a state of allowance, no longer settling for less than deserved, desired, or meant for.

You see, beloved, when you set standards for yourself, magic is just what you emanate - its part of your magnetic signature of love in the world.

So if you are in a season, reason of in separation or preparation for union, or partnership... my invitation is for you to remember that everything has a purpose; keep investing in your worth in every way so you can recognize that when healthy love arrives, you hold it in the reverence it so rightly deserves.

To be honored, because life isn't actually about choosing your hard. No its about finding yourself so you can love whomever you get to share life with for as long as the love flows.

Love is magnetic,

ASHRA